Bimbo Akintola is very open to the idea of being a single mum at 46 years of age and doesn't think it should be a big deal.
The veteran actress believes that things are changing in the world and in Nigeria even with its staunch traditions.
In a recent interview with Punch,
the actress said that women who have been waiting to find a husband can
go ahead and have kids if they choose to, putting the biological clock
into consideration.
When asked if she could be a single mom especially in our society, she said:
"Of
course, I can. Definitely I can do it because I don’t see anything
wrong with it. Things are changing in the world at large. If you look
around, you would find a lot of women are having babies and taking care
of themselves. It’s everywhere.
"There
are women who are not actors but are single mothers, and for a lot of
people I think it’s about their biological clock. Instead of waiting for
manna from heaven and you know there is no manna, and you feel the need
to have children, then do it."
Considering
the issue from the Yoruba traditional point of view, seeing as they
believe a woman is incomplete without a man, Akintola had this to say.
"We
have to change our thinking, due to the time. You can’t be rooted in
the past when the present and future are a totally different place. If
you look at what is going on now, there are women looking for husband
but can’t find.
"So would you now say
because of that they shouldn’t have children? That’s unnecessary and
it’s like making them suffer twice. I think for anybody that wants to
have children, as long as you know you are capable of taking care of
them financially and emotionally, why not."
On the pressure for women to get married, placed on them by society, she said, "I
guess these questions arise because of the country we live in and the
kind of people we are. It’s also something I think we need to look at
critically, because it seems we are creating more trouble for people, as
marriages are now crashing within six months or even less. This is
partly because the society puts a lot of pressure on people to get
married. Shouldn’t we take a step backward and ask ourselves what we are
doing wrong.
"It’s not about how soon, but how well? I think
it’s time we realised that marriage is such a serious thing. Shouldn’t
we allow people make their choices by themselves, without pressure?
Parents should stop putting pressure on their children.
"Many
women are divorced now and in some cases, there is serious fight and
both of them would be fighting over the custody of the child. We need to
start changing the way we look at marriage. It’s important we get
married but marry at your own time."
Bimbo Akintola has been in the movie industry for as long as we can remember and has played remarkable roles in all those years.
She has never been married and is yet to have any kids but who knows? That might be changing sooner than we think.
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